What I Got, What It Will Do For You

WHAT I GOT:

STRESS JUDO is a 6 month training program.  Each month, you receive:

• 2 full length MANUALS (1 on each of the 2 topics for that belt level).
• 2 CHECK LISTS of the main ideas for the Manuals
• 2 ACTION STEPS so you can use the training immediately
• 2 MIND MAPS for a graphical representation of the training

We also use SOCIAL NETWORKING the right – and efficient – way:

• TWITTER to broadcast postings and new articles
• FACEBOOK to get to know you personally
• NING as our social network platform

WHAT IT WILL DO FOR YOU:

• The first belts train you to attack stress and remove the EXTERNAL pressure
• The next few belts train you to stay calm and strengthen your INTERNAL ability to stand cool and firm in the face of stress
• The upper belts help you master the INTEGRATION of internal and external control, so stress will never again be a bother in your life.

WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO NEXT:

Go to STRESS JUDO: Black Belt System and sign up for the training.  You will have the YELLOW Belt materials delivered straight to your Inbox, even if it’s 3 am where you are (or where I am).

If you aren’t ready for the training, then sign up for the 2 FREE reports, including the exclusive Stress Does NOT Make You Perform Better.

Because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result.  And that is stressful.

How Are You Coping With Job Loss?

Coping with job loss means more than just usual “stress management tips.”  You know that crap: breath deep, take a walk, mediate.  Yeah.  And that does NOTHING for the stress of cash flow, rejection, and family pressures.  Coping with job loss means more than being calm internally.  It means taking control of the external and attacking this new horrible stress.

Here are 5 ways to cope with the stress of job loss that regular stress management types won’t tell you about:

1. Plan your job search like it’s a campaign.  You are not in this alone, nut no one else is out of YOUR job.  Attack your job search like it’s the enemy.  Lay out a detailed plan of attack, including creative places to look for jobs.

2. Stay in shape.  Letting your health go will reflect when you are in job interviews.  Looking despondent, desparate, and unhealthy is not what “dress for success” means. You need to fight the effects of stress on the body.

3. Meditate.  But didn’t I put it down up there?  Yes, if that is all you do.  But meditating on your strengths, on your plan of attack, on turning job loss into the next step in your growth – yeah, that meditation is fine.

4. Time and goal management.  It is very easy, when you are laid off, to lose your schedule.  Approach this period as “my job is now to find a job.”  Plan your day just like when you had your last job.  WORK at getting work.

5. Keep in touch with people.  Network and learn what places are hiring.  Find out which of your friends is taking this time ot open a business and get in on the ground floor.  Use your family and friends to keep your spirits up.

Surviving job loss can be approached as the end of your life, or as the stepping stone to a new and better job or career.  I have been laid off twice.  The first time, the company just folded up.  It led me to 2 new jobs, then a new career as a lawyer.  The second time, it was an opportunity to move back to a place my family was more confortable, and to a position managing several offices.  In this position, I have discovered a passion of developing young talent.

So job loss can be a positive thing.  The period of job loss sucks.  No money.  Stress from family.  But coping with job loss can make all the difference.

Here are 3 products I have developed to help you:

Job Loss Judo – a manual to help you attack job loss like a judo master.

Stress Judo – a training program to turn stress into OPPORTUNITIES, whether job loss stress, workplace stress, family stress – whatever.  You will WELCOME stress.

Father’s Rights Library – if you are a father paying child support or visiting the kids that mom has custody of, these aggressive manuals might help you in court or to use discovery to turn her lies back on her.

Top 5 WORST Stress Management Tips

Everywhere you look, someone is offering stress management tips.  And most of them are all the same.  But have you ever thought about whether these tips are good or bad?  Whether they actually work or are just parroting what someone wrote?  Whether they will actually relieve the stress in your life or make it worse?

Here are the top 5 worst tips on stress management usually seen on the web:

1. Take a long walk.  Almost every site recommends this.  But they recommend this as is.  In other words, just walk away from the stress for a while. So what’s the problem?  The stress is still there when you get back! And now you have just wasted time that you could be dealing with it!  If you are going to walk away from stress, then either use the time to clear your mind and recharge your energy, or to think about solving the stress problem in an undistracted environment.
2. Meditate.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  Meditation is a vital part of stress management.  But just to say meditate, without anything else, is like saying just run your fingers up and down the key board and you’ll be playing the piano!  Try several mediation systems and find the one that fits you best THEN – meditate.
3. Practice visualization.   What are you visualizing?  Your heart attack as the effects of stress on your body wear you down?  Looking for a new job after you get fired for not staying cool under the pressure?  This tip should be practice visualizing YOUR SOLUTION to the stress.
4. Don’t eat comfort foods.  Staying fit and healthy is an extremely important component of managing stress.  But look at all the above tips.  Taken on their own, each one of them makes you feel better inside.   But now you are told not to eat foods hat make you feel better? What the—?  Eat comfort foods in moderation.   Feel good while you are attacking stress.
5. Stay calm.  Come again?   What people call stress is really their bad internal reaction to stress.  So telling someone who doesn’t know how to react properly to stress to stay calm is like telling someone who can’t swim not to drown.  You will be calm under stress when you have the confidence of knowing you can react to stress.

The problem with these tips is that they are surface level.  They don’t go far enough.  They don’t relieve the stress.  They just make you feel better – temporarily – inside, while the stress continues to give you an anxiety attack.

Learn to attack the stress.  Find a program that teaches you to get rid of the stress, not just handle it.  Focus on tackling stress head-on and tossing it out of the way, instead of focusing only on yourself and your feelings about it.  Stress doesn’t care how you feel and stress won’t become less just because you can picture a happy place.

ABOUT STRESS JUDO 

To learn the premier system for training yourself to attack and destroy the stress in your life, click on STRESS JUDO.   Developed by experienced trial attorney and martial artist Rick Carter, this unique and exclusive training program will take you to a Black Belt in stress management.

How Does Divorce Affect Children?

 

The stress of divorce is enormous.  Most of it caused by simply not knowing.  Not knowing what the judge will do.  Not knowing if your ex is going to take you to cover over something stupid.  Not knowing how much it will cost.   Not knowing what the future will be like.   All of this “not knowing” causes stress.  And if you don’t handle the stress well, it comes out in how you handle your children.

Here are 5 things you can do to reduce some of the stress of divorce and how it affects the children:

1. Make a specific visitation schedule and stick to it.  Both of you.  If your kids see your ex – even if you hate that person – your children won’t be under so much stress.  They’ll have an outlet for their emotions.

2. Demand that your lawyer stay inb contact with you.  You should always know where you stand financially with your lawyer.  You should also know that your lawyer is following the same game plan you are.

3. Cool it on the partying.   Trying to juggle a job, the children, the ex-spouse and anyone new is way to much work.   It’s okay to have a new boyfriend or girfriend.   But a new one every week will put stress on you.  And you will put that stress on the children.

4. Don’t talk to your ex sbout why it went wrong.  Look, if your ex filed for divorce, they want out!  And if you filed for divorce, you won’t get any good answer from the other one.  Move on.

5. Pay the necessary bills first.   Everyone thinks they will walk out of the divorce with the winning lottery ticket.  The reality is you will walk out of the divorce with a dollar! Don’t add to the stress by making yourself poor and in debt.

Putting your children in counseling won’t help.  If the stress on them is from you, then you need to learn to handle the stress.  Not pass the buck to the kids to have to learn how to handle YOUR stress.  Your children will grow up bitter, not bonding with either of you, and distrusting relationships.  You want to answer the question “how does divorce affect children?” by saying “Mine? Not so much…”

In addition to surrounding yourself with a good support system, get yourself a good stress management system.  Something more than just “light a candle” or “think happy thoughts”  You will need a system that actually trains you to have a mindshift toward stress.   A system that teaches you to attack and destroy stress, so you can get on with your life.   And not put more stress on your children.

WE RECOMMEND:

The most unique and complete stress management system available.   STRESS JUDO: Black Belt System was developed by Rick Carter, a 25+ year martial artist, and a 15+ year experienced trial lawyer.  And many of those trials were divorces.  STRESS JUDO will train you through 6 belt levels, until you reach black belt.

Eliminate All Doubts About Your Ability to Stand Up Under Pressure and Stress

Vince Lombardi said “Fear makes cowards of us all.” And the essence of fear is doubt in your ability to stand up to the situation. Because if you had no doubt, you would have no fear. When you are under stress, all your doubts and fears become magnified. Eliminate your doubts and that stress reduces.

Very few stress management programs focus on the doubts you have about handling stress. Sure, they give you some stress techniques (“take deep breaths”), but these don’t hit your inner core to bolster your will to stand up to stress. A good stress management system will develop your will and your discipline. The anxiety help you need will be inside of you.

Here are 5 ways to eliminate doubt in the face of stress:
1. Learn to set goals. For too many people, a goal is really just a dream. A goal requires definition, measurability, and attainability. The goal should be to eliminate the stressor.

2. Learn to say no to distractions. When distractions interrupt, measure them against the goal of eliminating your stress. If the interruption doesn’t assist you in reaching your goal, turn it away and get to it later.

3. Develop detailed plans to attain the goal. Having detailed plans will make it easier for you to stick to the plan, which is reinforcing your discipline. Discipline is a key component of removing doubt, as you have the assurance that you will know what to do and actually do it.

4. Focus on having faith in your ability to accomplish your goals. Not really religious faith, but just that core belief that you can set a goal and achieve a goal.

5. Pretend that you have faith in your ability to accomplish your goals. This is not a question of self-esteem. It is a question of whether you will push through the sticking points. Pretending that you can do this will actually cause you to do it.

Stress is relentless. Stress is impersonal. Stress just pushes and pushes and pushes. Take high blood pressure symptoms, for example. There aren’t any, until the stress pushes your blood pressure over a limit. Then it could be fatal. Since the stress and the high blood pressure are silent, your stress management system needs to handle more than just panic attacks treatment. It needs to handle prevention.

Just having faith and confidence is not enough. You have to have the skills to identify the stressor. The ability to plan how to handle it. The discipline and faith to know you will stand up to it. And the humility to learn from the experience.

Learn the 12 components of a comprehensive stress management system in your free exclusive copy of STRESS JUDO: The Overview. Rick Carter has been a trial attorney for over 15 years, and has studied martial arts for over 24+ years. He combined the principles of judo with the best stress management techniques he had learned inside the courtroom and the arena, to create STRESS JUDO. Also available is the EXCLUSIVE and completely unique STRESS JUDO Black Belt System. Be a Black Belt in attacking and eliminating stress from your life.

STRESS JUDO: The Top Holiday Gift

Give the gift of a stress-free life

Holiday stress can be devastating. The pressure of planning and executing parties. The anxiety of whether you can actually get that hot holiday gift for your favorite niece or nephew. The stress of being pulled in 12 directions by parties, work, friends, relatives! It’s enough to give your high blood pressure record numbers!

We suggest looking at STRESS JUDO: The Black Belt System. This unique and exclusive stress training program leads you through 6 belt levels, culminating in a BLACK BELT in stress management:
1. Yellow belt – learn to attack stress
2. Orange belt – learn to anticipate stress
3. Green belt – learn to focus yourself under stress
4. Blue belt – learn to learn from stress
5. Brown belt – learn to stay healthy and strong to fight stress
6. Black belt – learn to control your energy and personal stress management

STRESS JUDO was developed by Rick Carter, a 15+ year trial lawyer and 25+ year martial artist.  By looking at how he handled the stress of trial and the stress of sparring, and knowing how effective a belt system of training is – Rick created STRESS JUDO.  This unique and exclusive training program doesn’t simply show you how to handle stress.  Or just how to be calm under stress.  It trains you to develop the skills and the mindset to attack and destroy stress.   You will WELCOME stress.  You will SEE the opportunities that lie in each stressful situation.   You will be the person who stays calm under fire – the one that your co-workers and your boss look to for leadership.

What better gift can you give someone than the gift of health? Calm? Getting promoted instead of fired?

STRESS JUDO: The Black Belt System

STRESS JUDO Black Belt System OPEN!!

The STRESS JUDO Black Belt System is now open for new members.
Are you looking to eliminate stress from your life?
Do you need to attack high blood pressure symptoms today?
Are you tired of choosing between “stress handle” and “stress reduce“?

Train for a BLACK BELT in stress management.
Each month – from YELLOW belt to BLACK belt – you receive:

• 2 full-length complete Manuals. For example, YELLOW belt is CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING and TIME MANAGEMENT.
• 2 Action Steps charts. So you can apply your training IMMEDIATELY.
• 2 Check Lists. So you can review and assimilate your training.
• 2 Mind Maps. An efficient overview of each belt.
• SYLLABUS. Out suggestion on how to train for maximum and immediate results.

SPECIAL BONUS!!! Each member who signs up in October 2009 gets STRESS JUDO: The Mastery Manual for –FREE–!!

STRESS JUDO was developed by Rick Carter. Rick has bee a trial lawyer for 15+ years, and a maartial artist for 25+ years. The stress of the courtroom and the stress of the ring. Based on his experiences in both, and cutting edge research and technology, Rick developed STRESS JUDO.

STRESS JUDO trains you through 6 belt levels, to achieve mastery and control over stress.

Anxiety Help Is More Than Silly Sayings

My name is Rick Carter and I created the STRESS JUDO Stress Management system to give you control and power over stress and anxiety.  Basaed on 15 years in the courtroom and 25 years in the karate studio, STRESS JUDO trains you to attack and destroy the stress and anxiety in your life.  It’s not just anxiety help.  It’s anxiety conversion into opportunities.

I just read an article that was supposed to be tips to help you handle stress and anxiety.  Instead, it was just a list of silly sayings instead of real anxiety help:

1. “Take a deep breath.” 
2. “Step back from the problem and come back later.”
3. “Visualize success.”
4. “Get lots of sleep.  Tell yourself you can do it.”

And you know what?  The thing that is causing the stress and anxiety in your life – IS STILL THERE!  This list is the equivalent of telling you to have positive thoughts about your flat tire.  It’s FLAT until you CHANGE it!   Your stress management system needs to give you the ability to convert your stress, not just handle it.

STRESS JUDO gives you the tools – creative problem solving, time management, meditation, energy creation, and 8 other areas – to control your internal reaction to stress as well as to attack and destroy the stressor.  This is because your internal stress reaction is telling you that a growth opportunity is stretching your boundaries. 

Of course, some anxiety and stress requires professional help.  See your health care professional to make sure you are handling your anxiety properly.

For more information on STRESS JUDO, click anxiety help.

How To Relieve Health Related Issues From Work Related Stress

Let’s face it. No one wants to be around someone who is always complaining. Or always distracted. Or who is unreliable. But isn’t that pretty much how you get around your family and friends when you suffer from health related issues from work related stress? It’s painful, not having your friends around when you need them most.

But if you are driving them away, then you need to handle your stress better. Focusing on the effects of stress on the relationships in your life may be just as important as focusing on the effects of stress on the body.

Time management is a key component – but not the only one – of handling stress. Many people think time management is only for the workplace. But using time management, along with creative problem solving, meditation techniques, and other elements of a complete stress management system, can save your relationships also.

Here are some ways to use time management to handle stress. This will eliminate most of the problems above, so your friends can enjoy being around you again.

1. You can schedule time with your family and friends. Too often, time with your family and friends is scheduled around work, activities, or other distractions. By scheduling this time, you can focus on your friends, without the anxiety attack that you are taking time from work.

2. You can set priorities. Your time management system can remove the stress of “I should be doing a dozen other things” by properly prioritizing your work. When you know some things are not priorities, you don’t feel stress by not working on these things.

3. You can focus on work or your friends. Nothing is more annoying than realizing that the person you are talking with is mentally 1000 miles away. A quality time management system will virtually force you to focus on work during work periods, and friends during friend periods.

4. You aren’t depressed and bringing your friends down. Long term stress leads to depression. Short term stress can make you depressed, just from fighting it. So how many times have you killed your friends’ buzz just because you are too depressed and too stressed to have a good time? Managing your time to allow for focused attention to the stress, with periods of rejuvenation mixed in, should lift the depression.

5. You can attract new friends. When you are not stressed – when you have a positive attitude – when you have a reputation as a “go to” person – you will have people asking to be your friend. Setting goals and hitting goals will make you very positive and very attractive.

Handling how stress affects your health is one thing. Handling how stress affects your emotions and attitude is another. By using time management and 11 other components of a comprehensive stress management system, you can get rid of your “bad attitude” and enjoy your friends again. You can replace the definition of stress in your life with the definition of happiness.

 

About the Author

Picture your life when stress is not a concern and where you are the leader in stressful situations. Go to What to do to relieve stress. STRESS JUDO was developed by Rick Carter, trial lawyer and martial artist. STRESS JUDO gives you a fighting chance against stress and turn stressful situations into opportunities.

Does Divorce Stress You Out?

Divorce is one of the most stressful events of your life.   And this includes breaking up with a longtime girlfriend or boyfriend, which can feel as bad as a divorce.   If there’s kids involved, it’s worse.  Especially where your spouse takes the attitude “I divorced you, so the kids divorced you.”  Which is not legal.  And not recognized by any court in America.  And happens all the time.

So what can you do about it?  Well, if you are a father in this situation, you can get a copy of the Father’s Rights Library.

The Father’s Rights Library is designed to help you and your lawyer work together, to get the court to realize that your kids need and deserve you, rather than just being a fight with mom to push you out of their lives.  And get the court onyour side to fight the not-so-subtle parental alienation that results.