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The Most Moral Act Of All Is The Creation Of Space For Life To Move Onward

This particular quote is such an elegant approach to life.  Life – whether yours or another person’s or your pet’s or your garden’s – moves onward.  Life never retreats.  Life grows.  And to grow, it needs space into which to grow.  Without space, growth is stunted.  With space, life is free to grow as big as it wants.  And also in any direction it wants. Or in all directions.  Because sometimes life looks like a bush.  And sometimes it looks like a vine.

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Exercise In Total Darkness

Exercise In Total Darkness

Exercising in total darkness – or near total darkness – is something that most people don’t think of doing. And when it is suggested to them, most people immediately think of reason they shouldn’t. There’s the “klutz” factor: what if I fall? What if I bump into something? There’s the “balance” factor: what if I fall down? There’s the “location” factor: where can I find a place dark enough and big enough? Well, the interesting thing is that exercising in darkness actually solves these problems, and many others.

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Engage in Self Examination For Your Stress Reactions

The bad health effects of stress are really are made worse when you emotionally lose the will to fight against stress. Your body sees stress as a threat and reacts with “fight or flight”: either you will fight the threat or you will run away from it. By examining how you react emotionally to stress, you can better monitor how stress is affecting you. And you can develop your best stress management strategies.

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How Can I Fight Stress? By Eliminating It

You are moving up in your organization. Your talent is recognized. Your ambition is respected. But do you have a key leadership trait? Can you stay calm under pressure? Can you navigate your team through chaos? Can you handle the stress?
The pressure of change is usually what makes young leaders crumble.

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How to Stop Stress From Stressing Your Relationships

Stress can interfere with many of your relationships. But developing your creative problem solving skills can help you handle stress. By handling stress, you are able to be more confident, less distracted, more focused on other person in the relationship. But stress affecting your relationships, and indirectly your emotional health, is one bad way that stress affects your overall health.

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STRESS JUDO COACHING applies the principles of judo (efficient use of power with leveraging the opponent’s strength against it) with the relentless focus and calm of a trial attorney to give you the most unique and effective approach to transform the stress in your life.  For 3 FREE reports that give you techniwues that can be applied immediately, and whcih explain the entire system, please go to http://www.stressjudocoaching.us/1_3_Contact.html

 

Research Supports STRESS JUDO COACHING Approach

Research from Queendom.com shows that “people who actively use healthy coping mechanisms to deal with stress are more likely to be happy with their life, their job, and their relationships.”  While this research was not specifically of the STRESS JUDO COACHING method, the active approach to dealing with stress was found to have the most beneficial results.

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How to Multi Task The Right Way

The proper use of the term “multi tasking” is really to be completing tasks in parallel, not simultaneously.  The term comes from the way computers process multiple programs and tasks.  The computer essentially delegates tasks and works on other tasks while that one is completing.  Since the computer is so fast compared to our perception, it appears as if it is “multi-tasking.”  But if humans try to do multiple tasks simultaneously, we just get bungled up and stressed out.

So how can you multi-task the right way?

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Signs Of Stress: Mental

Do you know the signs of stress? Not just feeling stress. Because waiting until you feel stress is like deciding to fight the enemy after they’ve come through the gate and over the walls. Your body and your mind let you know that stress is coming.

Stress makes your body go into “fight or flight” reaction. There are countless systems and methods to minimize the effects of this once it kicks in. But what if you got ahead of the stress? What if you could cut off the reaction before it started?

Here are 5 signs of stress that affect you mentally (as opposed to emotionally or physically):
1. Memory problems. Stress acts a silent, internal distracter. Part of your mind is literally always focused on the stress, thinking about it, trying to figure it out. This sometimes results in you forgetting little things (like how to tie a tie) or big things (a missed appointment). If you notice this happening, start looking for stress that you aren’t dealing with.
2. Concentration problems. Since part of your mind is tinkering with the stress, your concentration is not 100% on whatever task you are trying to focus on.
3. Judgment problems. Many times, to escape the pain or unpleasantness of the stress, you will unconsciously make self-destructive decisions. More drinking, overeating, and promiscuous sex are all poor judgment decisions that people make when under stress. If your behavior in these areas increases, start thinking about attacking your stress.
4. Worry problems. A little bit of worry is natural, and even good. It protects you from rash decisions. But if your worry is starting to overwhelm your decisions or your actions, it is a sign that stress is increasing in your life.
5. Uncontrollable thoughts problems. Your thoughts rise up, like bubbles from the bottom of the lake. And you, when you are not being pushed by stress, can pick and choose the thoughts you want to entertain or follow up with. But when your thoughts come faster and uncontrollably, and you are losing the ability to rein them in, take time to step back and find the stress in your life that is contributing to this.

Think back to the last big fight you had with stress. Wouldn’t it have been easier if you could stay focused? If you weren’t fatigued? If you could think clearly, and not be distracted? Wouldn’t it have been easier if you had fought the stress before these signs kicked in?

A stress management system that (kicks in) immediately on seeing one of these or other signs of stress will give you a better chance of fighting through the stress successfully. A system that has components specifically focused on strengthening these areas is more likely to make the stress feel – well, stressless. Having the right tool for the job is a lot easier when the job tells you what tool to use. Learn to recognize and react to the signs of stress.

STRESS JUDO COACHING is a 6 step comprehensive stress management system, designed to train you to attack stress and transform it into opportunities.

Is Workplace Stress Frustrating Your Effectiveness?

The hidden key to career success is how you react to workplace stress.  Much more than your technical skills, your people skills, or even your suck-up-to-the-boss skills, it is how you manage and deflect stress that determines your success in the company.  This is because the company can train anyone to perform technically.  They can hire gregarious people and educate them technically.  And the boss will always find someone who will suck up.  But it is a rare to find someone who can keep his or her head in the middle of chaos, or who doesn’t call in sick every time a crisis deadline looms.

Workplace stress is relentless.  It presses on you without relief.  It attacks you from all sides, in all situations, at all times.  It causes pain.  It causes health problems.  And ignoring it, or treating it like just-part-of-the-job, means that you will never rise above it.  It will frustrate you.  And you – the real you, who can do the job and command advancement – will fade from anyone’s notice.

Here are 5 ways that workplace stress frustrates your personal effectiveness at work:

1. You spend so much time dealing with stress that you have less time to do the extras on your job that get you noticed as a go-getter.  This is mischaracterized as time management.  Real time management is creating those gaps in your day that you fill with what you want to do.
2. You spend so much energy on stress that you don’t have the ability to compete with younger or newer co-workers.  Stress is like a hole in the gas tank of your car.
3. You spend so much money dealing with the bad health effects of stress that you cannot afford those social outings that develop teamwork between you and management.  Upper management is looking to promote the people they know and trust.  Social outings help establish this.
4. You spend so much emotional energy on fighting off stress that your personal attractiveness and appearance look neglected and older.  This does not mean “dress to impress.”  But it does mean that those bags under your eyes from lack of sleep make you look incompetent.
5. You spend so much social capital complaining to your co-workers about the stress in your life that they cannot view you as their effective leader.  People will not follow someone who tells them that he or she cannot get the job done.

It is very easy to go along with everyone else and treat workplace stress as a sort of natural disaster: something you plan for, but cannot prevent.  This approach leads to an attitude of complacency and passivity.  By attacking stress, you can break out of this mental defeatist attitude and take control of your life in a tangible way.

The way to attack stress is with a comprehensive stress management strategy and system.  Stress attacks you externally and internally.  It affects and weakens your physical body, your emotional systems, and your will.  Having a system built primarily to help one of these, with some add ons for the other types of stress, is the least effective.  Stress needs to be met as hard and aggressively as it attacks you.  Take control of stress and you take control of your life.  Remember: life is what happens to you; living is what you do to life.