Family Money Management And Stress Management With A Realistic Budget

A major and consistent source of stress for most people is money.  Well, actually the stress is caused by spending more money than they bring in or have.  The answer to this is simple: spend less.  Yeah, and the answer to losing weight is spend more calories than you eat.  So let’s come up with a plan for realistic family money management and hopefully get rid of some of that stress with a realistic budget.
1. Do NOT make the traditional “money in, money out” budget.  This may help you understand the problem, and show you where you are spending money that you shouldn’t.  But the problem is that defining the budget this way is what governments do, and you know how hard it is for THEM to cut anything out.

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A 56 Page Stress Management Newsletter That Is Worth Reading

I just received my copy of STRESS JUDO: The Newsletter July 2010 and it is UNBELIEVABLE!

56 pages and NO ADS! You know how these companies always promise “100% content” and then it’s realy just ads?  Not THIS newsletter!  This is 56 pages (they are numbered and there’s a Table Of Contents) of articles on the TOPIC of the newsletter.  The topic this month is “Stress And The Workplace.”

I highly recommend getting signed up at Executive Leadership Coaching to get this newsletter.  I am already looking forward to next month! Oh – and it’s FREE! 56 pages every month for free?  What the hell is this STRESS JUDO thinking??

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Workplace Stress Can Be FUN!

What would work be without stress?  Why, it would be … FUN.  So, why not make the stress of the workplace fun and sort of turn it into an existential negation of itself?  Or, in other words – make your boss’s head explode the next time he or she dumps a 3 hour project with a 1 hour deadline on your desk.

So try these few tips to put the “j-o-y” in “stress” – er, um – eh:

1.  Build in 15 minutes of slack each hour.  This way, if you get done that hour’s work without interruption, you have 15 minutes to either begin the next thing or to lean back and prepare for the next gut punch life has for ya.

2. Give yourself a reward for each little goal you accomplish. And by little, I mean excruciatingly little.  Like reward yourself for answering the phone and not using the cord to strangle yourself.  Or a coworker.

3. Suggest “desk yoga” to a co-worker who is really stressing out.  This will amuse you to no end.  Watching someone deep breathe and do twists in their chair is hilarious.  It’s like YouTube live on stage.

4. Put a vacation magazine in your desk drawer.  And cut out a picture of your boss or annoying co-worker.  And everytime they do something that bugs you, put his or her picture on a cruise ship.  And see them sailing off… dar dar away…

5. Do karaoke at your desk. On second thought – no, don’t do that.

The reality is that there really is not anyway to put the fun in stress.  But you can eliminate the stress, and replace it with fun.  How? Check out workplace stress management.

Stressed Out By Teamwork At Work?

The new buzzword at work is “teamwork.”  Nothing causes more anxiety and stress than the constant reshuffling and restructuing involved with this new idea!  Are you getting stressed out because of this? Check out Tips For Motivating A Team.  Then sign up for the STRESS JUDO Community.

How To Get STRESS JUDO Training At 50% Off

We have added a permanent Bonus program.  In this program, you can get STRESS JUDO training – the entire complete EXCLUSIVE Black Belt stress management program – for 50% off!

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You have to join the STRESS JUDO Community at stress management and get 3 FREE reports – monthly newsletter (100% ad free) – bonus reports almost every month – and info on the 50% program.

Thank you

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What I Got, What It Will Do For You

WHAT I GOT:

STRESS JUDO is a 6 month training program.  Each month, you receive:

• 2 full length MANUALS (1 on each of the 2 topics for that belt level).
• 2 CHECK LISTS of the main ideas for the Manuals
• 2 ACTION STEPS so you can use the training immediately
• 2 MIND MAPS for a graphical representation of the training

We also use SOCIAL NETWORKING the right – and efficient – way:

• TWITTER to broadcast postings and new articles
• FACEBOOK to get to know you personally
• NING as our social network platform

WHAT IT WILL DO FOR YOU:

• The first belts train you to attack stress and remove the EXTERNAL pressure
• The next few belts train you to stay calm and strengthen your INTERNAL ability to stand cool and firm in the face of stress
• The upper belts help you master the INTEGRATION of internal and external control, so stress will never again be a bother in your life.

WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO NEXT:

Go to STRESS JUDO: Black Belt System and sign up for the training.  You will have the YELLOW Belt materials delivered straight to your Inbox, even if it’s 3 am where you are (or where I am).

If you aren’t ready for the training, then sign up for the 2 FREE reports, including the exclusive Stress Does NOT Make You Perform Better.

Because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result.  And that is stressful.

Top 5 WORST Stress Management Tips

Everywhere you look, someone is offering stress management tips.  And most of them are all the same.  But have you ever thought about whether these tips are good or bad?  Whether they actually work or are just parroting what someone wrote?  Whether they will actually relieve the stress in your life or make it worse?

Here are the top 5 worst tips on stress management usually seen on the web:

1. Take a long walk.  Almost every site recommends this.  But they recommend this as is.  In other words, just walk away from the stress for a while. So what’s the problem?  The stress is still there when you get back! And now you have just wasted time that you could be dealing with it!  If you are going to walk away from stress, then either use the time to clear your mind and recharge your energy, or to think about solving the stress problem in an undistracted environment.
2. Meditate.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  Meditation is a vital part of stress management.  But just to say meditate, without anything else, is like saying just run your fingers up and down the key board and you’ll be playing the piano!  Try several mediation systems and find the one that fits you best THEN – meditate.
3. Practice visualization.   What are you visualizing?  Your heart attack as the effects of stress on your body wear you down?  Looking for a new job after you get fired for not staying cool under the pressure?  This tip should be practice visualizing YOUR SOLUTION to the stress.
4. Don’t eat comfort foods.  Staying fit and healthy is an extremely important component of managing stress.  But look at all the above tips.  Taken on their own, each one of them makes you feel better inside.   But now you are told not to eat foods hat make you feel better? What the—?  Eat comfort foods in moderation.   Feel good while you are attacking stress.
5. Stay calm.  Come again?   What people call stress is really their bad internal reaction to stress.  So telling someone who doesn’t know how to react properly to stress to stay calm is like telling someone who can’t swim not to drown.  You will be calm under stress when you have the confidence of knowing you can react to stress.

The problem with these tips is that they are surface level.  They don’t go far enough.  They don’t relieve the stress.  They just make you feel better – temporarily – inside, while the stress continues to give you an anxiety attack.

Learn to attack the stress.  Find a program that teaches you to get rid of the stress, not just handle it.  Focus on tackling stress head-on and tossing it out of the way, instead of focusing only on yourself and your feelings about it.  Stress doesn’t care how you feel and stress won’t become less just because you can picture a happy place.

ABOUT STRESS JUDO 

To learn the premier system for training yourself to attack and destroy the stress in your life, click on STRESS JUDO.   Developed by experienced trial attorney and martial artist Rick Carter, this unique and exclusive training program will take you to a Black Belt in stress management.

Eliminate All Doubts About Your Ability to Stand Up Under Pressure and Stress

Vince Lombardi said “Fear makes cowards of us all.” And the essence of fear is doubt in your ability to stand up to the situation. Because if you had no doubt, you would have no fear. When you are under stress, all your doubts and fears become magnified. Eliminate your doubts and that stress reduces.

Very few stress management programs focus on the doubts you have about handling stress. Sure, they give you some stress techniques (“take deep breaths”), but these don’t hit your inner core to bolster your will to stand up to stress. A good stress management system will develop your will and your discipline. The anxiety help you need will be inside of you.

Here are 5 ways to eliminate doubt in the face of stress:
1. Learn to set goals. For too many people, a goal is really just a dream. A goal requires definition, measurability, and attainability. The goal should be to eliminate the stressor.

2. Learn to say no to distractions. When distractions interrupt, measure them against the goal of eliminating your stress. If the interruption doesn’t assist you in reaching your goal, turn it away and get to it later.

3. Develop detailed plans to attain the goal. Having detailed plans will make it easier for you to stick to the plan, which is reinforcing your discipline. Discipline is a key component of removing doubt, as you have the assurance that you will know what to do and actually do it.

4. Focus on having faith in your ability to accomplish your goals. Not really religious faith, but just that core belief that you can set a goal and achieve a goal.

5. Pretend that you have faith in your ability to accomplish your goals. This is not a question of self-esteem. It is a question of whether you will push through the sticking points. Pretending that you can do this will actually cause you to do it.

Stress is relentless. Stress is impersonal. Stress just pushes and pushes and pushes. Take high blood pressure symptoms, for example. There aren’t any, until the stress pushes your blood pressure over a limit. Then it could be fatal. Since the stress and the high blood pressure are silent, your stress management system needs to handle more than just panic attacks treatment. It needs to handle prevention.

Just having faith and confidence is not enough. You have to have the skills to identify the stressor. The ability to plan how to handle it. The discipline and faith to know you will stand up to it. And the humility to learn from the experience.

Learn the 12 components of a comprehensive stress management system in your free exclusive copy of STRESS JUDO: The Overview. Rick Carter has been a trial attorney for over 15 years, and has studied martial arts for over 24+ years. He combined the principles of judo with the best stress management techniques he had learned inside the courtroom and the arena, to create STRESS JUDO. Also available is the EXCLUSIVE and completely unique STRESS JUDO Black Belt System. Be a Black Belt in attacking and eliminating stress from your life.

STRESS: The Police In The Rear View Mirror

I called my wife to tell her I was on my way home tonight.  She told me that she had not made anytthing for supper, and the girls didn’t want to go out, so could I pick up something on the way home? I said sure and stopped at a fast food place.  I still managed to gret relatively healthy meals (salads, grilled chicken, fruit instead of fries).

I pulled out and came to a stop sign and put my left blinker on.  As I turned down the volume on the CD player, I noticed comething in my rear view mirror.  The police car!  With HIS left blinker on also! Uh-oh… Anxiety attack.

Immediately, I felt stressed.  My mind went into overdrive.  I took a deep breath and focusedon the siutuation.  Had I been driving too fast?  No, it was just a short drive from the restaurant to the stop sign.  Had I made some kind of illegal turn?  No, and there were no cars around when I had pulled out.  Was I playing my music too loud?  Well… It was a Van Halen’s greatest hits CD, and I was plahying “Poundcake” – one of my favorites – and it was pretty loud… But it wasn’t nearly as loud as what some kids played.

So I started feeling less stressed.  And, as you can guess – it turned out to be that the police car was simply going in the same direction as I was.

But the process above – deep breath, focus, analyze – is exactly what STRESS JUDO teaches.  By using this process, my stress didn’t overwhelm me and make me something stupid.  Like lose focus driving.  Or try to flee the police (who weren’t even after me!).  Or become overly cautrious and maybe make myself suspicious.

This may seem like a trivial example.  But I have represented clients who did exsactly the wrong thing when they encountered a police officer – and hte police officer had notrhing to do with them.  Their stress led them to do stupid trhings.  Harmful things.  Expensive things.

So get STRESS JUDO, the cokmprehensive stress management system.  And you won’t get stressed when you see a cop in your rear-view mirror.  Unless you should be.