Does Divorce Stress You Out?

Divorce is one of the most stressful events of your life.   And this includes breaking up with a longtime girlfriend or boyfriend, which can feel as bad as a divorce.   If there’s kids involved, it’s worse.  Especially where your spouse takes the attitude “I divorced you, so the kids divorced you.”  Which is not legal.  And not recognized by any court in America.  And happens all the time.

So what can you do about it?  Well, if you are a father in this situation, you can get a copy of the Father’s Rights Library.

The Father’s Rights Library is designed to help you and your lawyer work together, to get the court to realize that your kids need and deserve you, rather than just being a fight with mom to push you out of their lives.  And get the court onyour side to fight the not-so-subtle parental alienation that results.

Did You Know Joshua Bell – violinist – Was A World Champion Video Game Player?

Hi, Rick Carter here, for STRESS JUDO.

Right now, I am watching LIVE FROM LINCOLN CENTER and violinist Joshua Bell is performing. Mr. Bell is from Bloomington, Indiana, where I went to law school (and met my wife-to-be, who happens to be a musician herself). And Joshua Bell would play from time to time at Indiana University.

So what does this have to do with the post’s title?

Actually, nothing at all.

Well, other than an explanation of why I am watching the performance.

But during the intermission, the announcer was talking about Joshua Bell’s eye-hand coordination and his athletic-like movements when he plays. He said that Joshua was discussing his early childhood playing sports. And then he said that Joshua Bell was the 1996 World Champion “Crystal Caliburn” champion! So I looked up the Joshua Bell official homepage (to get the videogame correct, because I’ve never heard of that one!) and it turns out that Joshua Bell – who played his first Stradivarius at age 12 – was also the Indiana State Junior Tennis Champion for the 9 and 10 year-olds age group!

Wow!

So what’s the point of this post?
It is not to brag about a world-class classical musician. If I wanted to do THAT, I’d write about my personal friend classical saxophonist OTIS MURPHY!

No.

The point of this newsletter is to point out the neccessity and the virtues of being well-rounded, to be better able to handle stressful situations.  STRESS JUDO teaches you 12 components of stress management.  The program is designed so the 12 are integrated with each and support each.  Eventually, you will simply use the 1 or 5 or even 12 most appropriate to the situation.  And you won’t worry about anxiety attack symptoms or the bad health effects of stress ever again.

So check out STRESS JUDO to help you lead a stress-free life – a life where you welcome stressful situations.

Thanks.

Rick Carter Indianapolis, IN

5 Tips For Preparing a Household Budget Before a Layoff

Surviving job loss means more than just surviving financially. But, realistically, if your finances tank, then all the other areas of your life become that much more difficult. Layoffs devastate your finances and lifestyle. Your budget goes nuts. Your family panics and spends all the savings. Your retirement goes. Your house goes. Your life goes.

But what if your company told you that on a specific date, you were going to be laid off? Wouldn’t you get your finances in order? That would make the income stopping less hard. It would make the transition from no income to next income a little easier. The reality is: in this economy, the only thing you don’t know is the specific date.

Here are 5 things you can do right now with your finances, anticipating job layoffs, to get your finances in order.

1. Streamline your cash outflow. Look at what you spend money on. Look at what you plan to spend money on. Pick the things that can be deferred, or cut out altogether.
2. Know your family debt and how to service it. Far too many families have no idea of how much money they owe and how much they spend each month on paying the debt. Even fewer families know how close they are to paying it off.
3. Use your vested savings last. You have put a lot of time and money into long-term investments, like your house and your retirement plan. Tapping into those things for everyday money is way too expensive. Develop a household budget that has does not require you to access that money, ever.
4. Eliminate luxuries. Easy to say, hard to do. First thing is get the family together and have your family define what a luxury is. Or, if they want to keep the luxury, what they will cut out to save it.
5. Prioritize your spending. Look at the plan you developed in number 1 above, the budget in number 3, and the definition of luxuries in number 4. Use this to pay the most important things first. Use this to say no to demands on your family’s money, even if the demand comes from your family.

This is an unpleasant subject. It is difficult to face the fact that you may get laid off. It is difficult to face the anxiety attack symptoms that hit when you think about it. But it is more difficult to watch your retirement money get spent for today’s food, and to see the taxes and penalties you pay on that. It is difficult to see the FORECLOSURE notice on the house that you went to work everyday for.

Having a plan and strategy for dealing with job loss can help you with the stress management attendant to a layoff. It won’t make it go away. It won’t prevent a layoff, if the company is committed to laying you off. But planning for a layoff – even one you think is unlikely – can have positive repercussions throughout your life.

Picture your life when stress is not a concern and where you are the leader in stressful situations. To see exactly how you can do this – and for 2 FREE stress fighting reports – go to http://StressJudo.blinkweb.com/overview.html STRESS JUDO was developed by Rick Carter, a trial lawyer and martial artist. The courtroom has emotional and intellectual stress, and the dojo and fight ring have physical and psychological stress. It was to handle these stresses that STRESS JUDO was developed, to give you a fighting chance against stress, to turn stressful situations into opportunities. STRESS JUDO teaches you the 12 components of successful stress management, and how to use the energy of the stress to successfully fight through and win.

Ten Tips For Stress Management

Stress is a necessary part of life.  Stress, in a positive form, lets you know that you are challenging your own limits, like when you strain to lift 10 more pounds or push yourself to finish a project before the deadline.  Stress, in a negative form, wears down your physical and emotional systems.  So stress management strategies are sought after by everyone.
 
Stress management anxiety reduction is used by most people mainly to relieve the physical symptoms of anxiety attacks.  Because these physical symptoms will only distract you from, and weaken you in, battling the stressor that is causing the anxiety.  And it is only by eliminating the stressor that you can finally end the headaches, feeling of nervousness, and constant chest tightness from anxiety that is so harmful to you.
Let’s look at ten tips for stress management:

Why You Need More Than ONE Stress Management Technique

I saw an article recommending that you pick ONE stress management technique and perfect it.

Seriously?

Will exercise help you when the stressor is your kid turning blue from choking?

Will yoga help you when the stressor is your wife has emptied the bank accounts and taken the kids to Idaho?

Will deep breathing help you when the stressor is the new guy in the office who’s undermining your authority and gunning for your job?

You need a stress management system.  A comprehensive stress management system. 

STRESS JUDO takes you through 6 belts, with 12 techniques.  Ranging from creative problem solving to exercise to deep breathing. 

Go to stress management for 2 FREE reports on stress management.

5 Ways To Handle The Physical Symptoms Of High Blood Pressure

High blood pressure can lead to heart attacks, stroke, and death.  You should have your blood pressure checked by a doctor on a regular basis.  If the doctor prescribes medication, you should take it as prescribed.  The main reason for having your blood pressure checked by a doctor is that there are very few physical symptoms of high blood pressure. And the ones you do see are often confused with other causes.

Some of these symptoms are: headache, dizziness, blurred vision, drowsiness, and nausea.  All of these can be explained by some other cause.  Sometimes people are under stress so long that they can’t distinguish the bad health effects of stress  anymore.  Which means that the high blood pressure is left untreated, and ti gets worse.  And stress elevates blood pressure.  But you can use aggressive stress management techniques to handle the stress, and lower your blood pressure.

Here are 5 ways to aggressively attack stress to lower your blood pressure:

1. Use creative problem solving to handle stress better.  The natural reaction to stress is “fight or flight.”  You can creatively come up with more solutions.
2. Use meditation appropriately.  Meditating can relieve some of the inner effects of stress and make you feel better. But it does nothing to eliminate the stress.  Use meditation to not only calm yourself down, but open your mind to creative possibilities.
3. Develop your own stress management process.  Any stress management system that you learn was developed by someone else for someone else’s problems.  Take the techniques that work from each system and create your own.
4. Stay in shape.  Stress weakens the various systems of your body, which gives you less energy to fight the stress.  By staying in shape, you can fight the stress, not just tolerate it.
5. Use an effective time management system.  Stress from impossible deadlines is bad.  Stress from interruptions is worse. But having a time management system that not only permits, but demands, that you reject time-wasting interruptions, can relieve much stress in your life.

If you don’t do handle stress, your high blood pressure will get worse.  But knowing what to do to relieve stress can help lower your blood pressure.  With the lower blood pressure, you can reduce the chances of heart attack or stroke.  Of course, there are other causes of those conditions that also must be looked at.  But removing stress as a cause can focus your efforts.

Handling stress involves internally handling your reactions, but also externally eliminating the stressor.   Using this dual approach might be the most effective way to reduce or eliminate the signs symptoms of panic attacks and lower your blood pressure.  Probably meditation or visualization is part of what you are doing to relieve stress.  But this is not enough.  That’s like helping a quarterback learn not to feel bad when he throws an interception.  Wouldn’t it be better to teach the quarterback to simply not throw interceptions?  Using a comprehensive stress management system will eliminate the stress and give you lower blood pressure.

STRESS JUDO – the comprehensive stress management system

5 Ways to Gain Respect at Work by Managing Stress

The easiest way to come to management’s attention is to melt down during a crisis. Or to say the wrong thing to the wrong person, just because you are having stress at home and you carry it over into the workplace. All of your good accomplishments, goals attained, co-worker respect – all gone in one fleeting moment. All because you didn’t know what to do to relieve stress.

Click -> stress management for 2 FREE reports and more information.

 

 

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